I’m a very direct, straightforward and honest. That’s how I roll. And I’ve discovered time and time again that many people don’t like that especially when you’re a woman. Someone gave me good advice about how to modify my behavior when my first instinct might be to offer advice is to ask, “do you want me to just listen? Or do you want my…
I’m a very direct, straightforward and honest. That’s how I roll. And I’ve discovered time and time again that many people don’t like that especially when you’re a woman. Someone gave me good advice about how to modify my behavior when my first instinct might be to offer advice is to ask, “do you want me to just listen? Or do you want my feedback?” As much as I like to help others, honoring other people’s preferences is important. I didn’t realize how annoying I was being until a close friend starting offer me unsolicited advice. I was like, “Cut that out! Now!” I guess I learned something. It works both ways. lol.
I’m a very direct, straightforward and honest. That’s how I roll. And I’ve discovered time and time again that many people don’t like that especially when you’re a woman. Someone gave me good advice about how to modify my behavior when my first instinct might be to offer advice is to ask, “do you want me to just listen? Or do you want my feedback?” As much as I like to help others, honoring other people’s preferences is important. I didn’t realize how annoying I was being until a close friend starting offer me unsolicited advice. I was like, “Cut that out! Now!” I guess I learned something. It works both ways. lol.
I should have mentioned that asking this question is a pro skill that will spare a lot of grief