Don’t choke on your matcha when I say this but do you practice or have you read up on Internal Family Systems? Asking bc the framework (I promise I read your whole essay, stay with me lol) asserts that we all have Self energy. It’s the part of us that knows how to heal WITHOUT decades of therapy, medication, etc. Once we are able to tune…
Don’t choke on your matcha when I say this but do you practice or have you read up on Internal Family Systems? Asking bc the framework (I promise I read your whole essay, stay with me lol) asserts that we all have Self energy. It’s the part of us that knows how to heal WITHOUT decades of therapy, medication, etc. Once we are able to tune into this part of us life expands and things change drastically (at least that’s how it was for me). What blocks our Self energy are our protective parts and in my case my Intellectualizer armored up! She comes online to make sure I don’t sound like the piece of poor white trash I’ve always been terrified of being seen as. No matter, though, bc Self is like God and triggers that feeling you’re referencing. I don’t need to work on being grounded bc the ground is already in me. I practice tuning in on a daily basis and it’s been such a gift.
It’s that Toni Morrison quote “Your crown has already been paid for” or the opposite of original sin. We are born good; we are made of goodness.
Hope the early days of baby hood are treating you well. 🌈
The "wounded parts" in the essay is a subtle nod to IFS :) Although I completely agree with you, it's one of the best frameworks out there, maybe the best? I was trained in it, use it in my course, etc. I do find, however, that lotta folks miss the core Self-energy you're pointing to and instead get lost in a psychodrama acting out their parts, which is a very pop-psychology misunderstanding. Oh, and, I've literally had matcha lattes two days in a row for the first time in months... busted. Thank you just so much for this wonderful note, Emily. You wise.
Me again 😂😂 This might sound fucking crazy but maybe not considering the space we’re in? 🖤 When you sit with your parts and do the listening without words that Schwartz proselytizes, do the parts respond to you?
Don’t choke on your matcha when I say this but do you practice or have you read up on Internal Family Systems? Asking bc the framework (I promise I read your whole essay, stay with me lol) asserts that we all have Self energy. It’s the part of us that knows how to heal WITHOUT decades of therapy, medication, etc. Once we are able to tune into this part of us life expands and things change drastically (at least that’s how it was for me). What blocks our Self energy are our protective parts and in my case my Intellectualizer armored up! She comes online to make sure I don’t sound like the piece of poor white trash I’ve always been terrified of being seen as. No matter, though, bc Self is like God and triggers that feeling you’re referencing. I don’t need to work on being grounded bc the ground is already in me. I practice tuning in on a daily basis and it’s been such a gift.
It’s that Toni Morrison quote “Your crown has already been paid for” or the opposite of original sin. We are born good; we are made of goodness.
Hope the early days of baby hood are treating you well. 🌈
The "wounded parts" in the essay is a subtle nod to IFS :) Although I completely agree with you, it's one of the best frameworks out there, maybe the best? I was trained in it, use it in my course, etc. I do find, however, that lotta folks miss the core Self-energy you're pointing to and instead get lost in a psychodrama acting out their parts, which is a very pop-psychology misunderstanding. Oh, and, I've literally had matcha lattes two days in a row for the first time in months... busted. Thank you just so much for this wonderful note, Emily. You wise.
I did not know! For when you’re reading newsletters again…. I wrote about my IFS process in intimate detail on my low key, low readership Substack. Would love to hear what you think. 😊 https://open.substack.com/pub/bendwithher/p/the-magic-of-unburdening-part-3?r=wt038&utm_medium=ios
Beautiful, thanks for sharing this
Thank you for reading!! Made my week. 🫶
Me again 😂😂 This might sound fucking crazy but maybe not considering the space we’re in? 🖤 When you sit with your parts and do the listening without words that Schwartz proselytizes, do the parts respond to you?